1. A birthmother who cares about her child would not think of adoption.  Many times this opinion arises out of fear of what others will think or their own wrong feelings of guilt.  This is actually a very loving decision a birthmother can make.
2. A birthmother will never know anything about her child and his/her adoptive parents in the following years.  The laws have changed.  The amount and type of contact can be anywhere from none to regular visits with the adoptive family.
3. Adoption is an irresponsible solution to an unplanned pregnancy.   Just the opposite.  The birthmother is being responsible by thinking about the future of the child and how much responsibility she might not be able to really take on right now in her life.
4. A birthmother will eventually forget about the child she released for adoption.  No women can ever forget a child she has given birth to.
5. All adoptees will grow up to have serious psychological problems.  Research has found this to be quite the opposite.  Many studies over the years have shown that there is no difference between adopted and non-adopted children in terms of adjustment, delinquency, or mental health. 
6. A birthmother will have serious emotional problems if she relinquishes her child.   With reputable adoption agencies there is counseling and support to help prevent such an outcome.
7. No one can love a child as much as the birthmother.  One must not confuse the ability to be a good parent with the ability to give birth.  Being a good parent is a matter of consistency and continuously nurturing and loving a child, not a matter of biology.

Adoption	Abortion
Your pregnancy ends with life.	The pregnancy ends with death.
You may feel good and positive about your choice.	You may feel guilt and shame about your choice.
You will remember giving birth.	You will remember taking a life.
You can have continued contact with your child.	You will miss the opportunity to see your child grow and develop.

• You have the joy of knowing you chose life for your baby.
• You will have plenty of time to plan your and your baby's future.
• You can hold, name and love your baby.
• You can know how your child is developing & growing.

• You can pursue earlier goals and plans.
• You won't have to parent before you're ready, unless you already have other children.
• You can choose whether or not to have a long-term relationship with the baby's father.

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